Comments on: Boobs, golf balls, and nonviolence

By: norman

norman — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 15:30:31 +0000

Just read the post and decided i had to say something,Wedding clothes are a nightmare, at least the men can wear a suit or something.

By: Leah

Leah — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 01:19:26 +0000

Oh, you are just so awesome. I really appreciate this post and reading about the way you moved through the process of dealing with the hard. xoxox
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By: Eileen

Eileen — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:52:02 +0000

Aw, thanks Shannon and Heidi!

Okay, she ended up wearing a dress from (I was sort of cringing when she said it and trying to deny reality so I may not be remembering properly) Ross Dress for Less.

(Now don’t get me wrong, if any of you have ever met me in person you know I am not even remotely one to turn my nose up at bargain-basement-clothes shopping! But….when compared to what might have been….::sigh::)

Truth be told, it was a lovely dress and looked great on her. It was emerald green, where the ties and the flowers were more of a golden green color. So yeah, it clashed a little bit but I’m guessing that was noticeable only to me. Anyone else would have just seen a lovely wedding

(I’m just glad I only had one attendant, so it’s not like a bunch of other people were wearing the perfect dress and she was wearing the Ross-dress-for-less-dress… but then it wasn’t really a multiple-attendants kind of wedding to start with…)

Oh you guys! Thanks for listening. It’s so fun to have this safe space to put my feelings into…and not pouring out inappropriately, taking casualties

By: Eileen

Eileen — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:42:48 +0000

Christine, thanks to your artist-self for mourning with me!

I love, love “Yes, and”! That is exactly it! We are so big as human beings, there is so much room in there for all of it

By: Eileen

Eileen — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 18:40:54 +0000

Amber, I’m blown away by the kindness of your comment! Thank you. And thanks for commiserating about the dress

The acceptance is a hard thing…for me it all comes down to processing time. Like in this story, I got an *email* from my sister with the news, so I had time to process my stuff before I talked to her. If I had been live and in person with her, or on the phone, I don’t think it would have gone as well. Hard stuff.

Thanks sooo much for being here! Lots of love ~ Eileen

By: shannon wilkinson

shannon wilkinson — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 18:24:09 +0000

This IS awesome. I can’t top Amber’s description of your awesomeness, so I’ll leave it at that.

Like Heidi, I’m dying to know what your sister wore. And, I think you should take the bodice of the dress and make it into a pillow.
shannon wilkinson´s last blog ..Three and a half things I’m embarrassed to admit

By: Heidi Fischbach

Heidi Fischbach — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 19:41:24 +0000

So, what did your sister end up wearing?!
(Oh and, I loved your story)
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By: Victoria Brouhard

Victoria Brouhard — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 19:35:14 +0000

“And it was the allowing that opened everything up.”

Talk about a big, juicy insight.

I think there is *so much* to the whole permission thing. And how wonderful that even during the stress of a wedding, you were able to allow yourself to feel what you felt and acknowledge it, rather than try to ignore it.

Congrats, my dear! xoxo
Victoria Brouhard´s last blog ..Quitting the Man: 20 Days Since Freedom

By: Christine Martell

Christine Martell — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 19:10:01 +0000

The essence of living a life of “Yes, and” rather than “Yes, but”. My artist self mourns the omission of the organic hand dyed silk, while my heart witnesses the story of love that your wedding embodied. Thanks you for sharing the wisdom, it has reminded me of many of the special pieces of my own wedding (with many imperfections around the love.)
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By: Amber

Amber — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 05:13:45 +0000

You are seriously awesome. Like, 15 kinds of awesome with a side of pancakes and maple syrup.

I think this is what I need to work on, now, is the acceptance. I am allowed to feel how I feel. It is OK to feel that way, and to be me, just as I am.

(And I’m really sorry about the dress.)
Amber´s last blog ..Handmade Christmas