Comments on: The Human Filter

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 18:25:45 +0000

I have read this post almost a dozen times in the last week, trying to sink the information deep into my brains and I think I’m starting to get it. My insecurities this week, about my hatchling business, is that there are others who can do it better, do it different, do it smarter, WHATever. But when I’ve expressed those fears to my friends (on Plurk, they’re like my little braintrust/cheerleading squad), they say that they are interested in what I’m saying (even if it is similar to others’ info) because *I* am saying it.

So I guess I’m doing it right?

Thank you for this very encouraging post.

By: Andrew Lightheart @alightheart

Andrew Lightheart @alightheart — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 22:26:49 +0000

So true.

I’m amazed at how many layers there are between me and my ability to follow through on ‘being myself’.

Like, fear, stuck, blankness…

Thanks for the reminder.

Can you remind me, like, er every 12 minutes?

Thanks.
Andrew Lightheart @alightheart´s last blog ..How to be less grumpy

By: Kylie

Kylie — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 19:40:01 +0000

You put a feeling I have often (she says sheepishly) into words very simply and very beautifully. Thank you for giving me an invitation to think about what my quirks have to offer. I’m going to try to be okay with that little twinge of jealousy, and I’m going to refocus on finding what my special thing is.
Kylie´s last blog ..creating space

By: Eileen

Eileen — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 06:29:08 +0000

Ah, Joyce, yes! Simultaneous, that mixtape of emotion we’re always playing *smooches to you* ~ E.

By: Eileen

Eileen — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 06:28:01 +0000

Amber–Totally… it’s remembering that, I think, that helps. Although I still get to grumble at 25 year olds kicking my ass, right?

By: Eileen

Eileen — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 06:26:35 +0000

Oooh, interesting data point Crystal! Because we’re all looking to be understood, to connect with the others that get oh-so-close to what we want to say….hmmmm

By: Eileen

Eileen — Fri, 11 Dec 2009 06:24:52 +0000

Yes! Exactly! (glad I’m not the only one…)

By: Amber

Amber — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:34:50 +0000

Yeah, I feel the jealousy, too. Especially now that I’m 33 (which is still pretty young, I know) and I see someone 10 years my junior doing great stuff. That stings a little and makes me wonder where I’ve been.

But then I remember that other people probably feel that way about me. In fact, I know some do. As you say, we all have our filters. The best we can do is be ourselves, do our things, and appreciate other people doing the same. That’s it.
Amber´s last blog ..Work at Home Mom

By: Crystal

Crystal — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:37:19 +0000

Funny … Just the other day I wrote a blog post related to similar feelings, although I was specifically blathering about how it feels when I’m slacking on creating physical things and then I see other people doing something I feel like I should have done (or, heaven forbid, something I wanted to do or tried to do years ago, but didn’t manage to find the right market for and gave up on … sigh).

But I do the same exact thing you mention (understood/jealous/sad) with people’s personal expression. This statement “I feel like wow, if this person exists in the world then why do I even need to be here? They’ve totally got this covered” describes it exactly. Fortunately, I don’t feel jealous/sad of this post.

Apparently, I don’t feel the negative bits when the person expressing themselves like I “should” be *sounds* enough like me that I can believe they would probably want me to exist, just because *I* also want people who understand me (and people like me) to exist. Does that make sense? I didn’t have much sleep last night, so I’m probably incoherent.
Crystal´s last blog ..Vote on our next big project!

By: joyce lukaczer

joyce lukaczer — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 18:16:25 +0000

ouy … yes, i feel the need-to-wonder why i feel diluted and simultaneously en-riched by the other’s offering of thisbeautifulthing?